”I had an acquaintance who always said that their priorities were ”trash”, that they have failed to have the life they have always wished for. They tried a little, but, every time someone tested their ability of working, out of the desire to demonstrate how much they can perform in record time, they forgot about any other priority: child, family, friends. They pressed this pedal so hard that they failed to be there when their father lost his life (to use an expression learned from a client), when their own child was preparing for college and taking exams. There was always something else calling them, something that seemed more important, more urgent.

How many of us aren’t in this vicious circle? How many of us forget that, besides working, life has other colors, some so beautiful, which would give us energy, but which we choose to ignore. In fact, we do not ignore them, we know that they exist, but we postpone reaching them; often for so long until they are no longer around us. It’s like when you know for sure that the rainbow will appear after the rain because you saw it once or others told you. But you choose not to pay attention to it too, you have work to do, you will look when you will finish what you had to do. When you look out the window it is dark, the colors and the light didn’t wait for you forever.

Why do we postpone? I would say that there are several possible reasons:

  • Out of the desire to prove how professionally good we are;
  • Because of the fear of failure;
  • Because of fearing that we might be happy (who would have thought) or unhappy;
  • Because of the clumsiness of relating to others, even to our parents, children, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends;
  • Because we are chasing money, they give us the feeling of comfort;
  • Out of ignorance – that’s how it was did at home, we copy some behaviors and we don’t even realize that we are mimicking our parents;
  • Because of the fear of being poor;
  • Others, certainly, that I did not catch here.

So what?

So nothing; it’s just that we’re left alone, there’s no one around, precisely because when there was someone, we were too busy. Then we regret it, but it’s too late. Time does not return, those who had no space in our lives don’t return. They go searching for their own place, wherever it might be.

So what can we do?

It seems to me that this period is perfect for rethinking priorities. This is coming from a person who was like the person in the beginning and certainly still has many traces.

Your job is very important; at certain times in our lives, we need to give it a very large part of our time.

In addition to our job, however, there are some other dimensions as well:

  • Our development, as people and as professionals;
  • Our nuclear family – parents, siblings – and the built one, or the relationship we are in or want to build;
  • Books, read articles;
  • The people we surround ourselves with;
  • What we eat, our diet;
  • The physical activity we have;
  • What we believe in;
  • What hopes we build, what plans we make;
  • The music we listen to, the paintings we contemplate on;
  • The time spent, in moderation, on social media;
  • Quality time with people who really matter.

Unfortunately, however, many of us develop high expectations from life, from others, forgetting that, in fact, we also have something in order for those expectations to be met. The monochromatic behavior is bitter; our joy, enthusiasm, energy come from variety, from the art with which we combine the various aspects, notes, tones that life makes available to us, from how we turn dust into multicolored stardust.”

via: Revista Cariere