I have noticed and experienced quite a lot of hostility in recent months, too much, I would dare say. I even noticed, one day, that whatever I said, I invariably received ‘yes, but…’, then a tirade of arguments against it followed.
I see in social media, in the comments section to various posts of many people, something that seems a lot like frustration, hatred. Many people see in black and white, and the attempts of others to give nuances to situations are ridiculed, blamed.
Perhaps it was the pandemic that was the litmus test that revealed the dark side of everyone; the more intense it was, the more hostility we see.
It is difficult to carry out hostility, it is difficult to show it continuously and to face it. Beyond it, however, there are various reasons, such as: dissatisfaction, frustration, envy, non-acceptance of oneself, unlove, a poor education.
What do we do with hostile manifestations?
My proposal is to make detachment efforts. There will always be good times and bad times in life; we will meet people who will lift us up and others who will lower us, each according to how they can and want in those moments. Beyond them, however, it is important to aim for ourselves. More important than malicious comments, than envy, is to be healthy, to see our path. It’s as if our lives have spectators who support us and spectators who criticize us. Whatever we do, some will still see the speck in their brother’s eye.
I had such a negative experience with some people last week. On the way home, however, I remembered that life was too short to pay so much attention to people attacking me.
It was an exercise with the ruler of life: take a sheet of paper, fold it or cut it to look like a ruler, divide it from 0 to 100, from 10 to 10. Then break the sheet at your age. Put aside what the past represents. Life expectancy in Romania is around 75 years. Break the 75 to 100 part and set it aside. What you have left is your life. One third of the time you sleep. One third you work (or more). The rest is time for other activities. How much time is left to work and other activities do you want to give to the so-called ‘haters’? Perhaps the exhortation in the title is worth noting: life is too short to pay attention to detractors. I’m not saying we shouldn’t admit that we’re wrong, I’m saying that some comments are given for nothing and malicious.
N.B. I must note that I also met positive people, who always have something good to say. A joy to notice them, to be around their good energy. For them, hats off!